Tuesday, February 24, 2009

Beware Of The Counselor

 ... passing along some information that we all should be concerned about.

 

If allowed by the respective state governors, the country's 'child advocate' NGOs and Government run orgs like CPS will get millions from the PelObamaReid federal stimulus.

 

Nothing like bolstering an already powerful and potentially dangerous taxpayer funded, government led syndicate chalk full of 'academic experts'; teachers, school administrators, counselors, psychologists, sociologists, lawyers, judges, etc., who view the family as an impediment to the proper socialization of children.

 

Disclaimer:

 

To be clear... the argument is with the anti-family syndicate, not you the upstanding teacher, administrator, counselor, psychologist, sociologist, lawyer, judge, etc.

 

 

Family & Friends,

 

I recently attended court as a supporter for a dear friend of mine who lives in a nearby town.  She and her husband have four children, the oldest of which is a typical 13 year old girl.  Like most girls her age, she is testing her limits.  She tries manipulating, “stretching” the truth, and trying to get her way.  She is a good girl, but definitely pushing the envelope.  Her parents are good parents and they don’t take garbage from their kids.

 

Last November, this 13 year old was irritated that her mother took her cell phone privileges away until her grades improved, so she made an appointment with the school counselor and ranted and raved that her mother was unfair, she exaggerated and got carried away about the situation, and complained her mother had “hurt her feelings.”  The counselor contacted my friend and made her recommendations about the situation to which my friend basically told her it was none of her business.  Then, when her daughter got home they had a discussion and the mother told the daughter not to go to the counselor anymore.

 

Late January, Child Protective Services (CPS) came to the house and took all four children from the babysitter at the house and charged both parents with “emotional abuse.”  Apparently, the counselor had tried to set up another appointment with this 13 year old, who said “my mom says I shouldn’t talk to you anymore.”  The counselor determined, from that statement, that there must be something wrong at home…otherwise there wouldn’t be any reason they couldn’t talk.  She then contacted CPS and thus the removal of the children.

 

It has now been three weeks, the parents cannot see or talk with their children because the parents “may influence the children’s version of events,” even though this is all based on the eldest’s meeting with the counselor. My friend and her husband have had three previous court dates during which they have never been allowed to speak to the judge.  The system has them trapped and their lawyer estimates it will take 4-6 months to get this resolved and their children home. They have boundaries, expectations, and limitations for their children and they are being charged with “emotional abuse”. 

 

Our laws are giving children all the power.  Being a good parent is at the mercy of the observer, many of which do not like the moral stance we teach our children, especially in light of Proposition 8.  Beware the counselor.  They tell our children they only want to help, and I mean no disrespect, but their job entirely depends on people having problems! For example:

 

My own daughter, Evelyn, made an appointment with the school counselor just before winter break because she was having problems with the kids in her table group.  She got back from winter break and her table group had changed (it does every month) and the counselor called her in.  Evelyn couldn’t even remember why she had made the appointment, so the counselor began fishing around.  By the end of the appointment, Evelyn’s best friend had been called into the office and they were both crying over some event in Kindergarten (4+ years ago).  The counselor seemed very pleased when she called to tell us she had taken care of a “little problem” between these two!  Seriously!? Dredging up problems from Kindergarten and making little girls cry over it is a good thing? I think you see my point.

 

Please talk to your children about this.  I know we have.

1 comment:

AL said...

Maurice, I think you need to add the "follow" widget provided by blogger. I enjoy your blog and want to be able to more effectively follow your postings.

AL